What does it take to get back up when you fall?
How do you rise again when you’ve failed?
What really makes a leader?
How do relationships stay strong?
How do you keep innovating?
In Rising Strong, Dr. Brene Brown lets you in on exactly that. The logical next step in her research on vulnerability, courage, and worthiness after The Gifts of Imperfection and Daring Greatly, Rising Strong is grounded in thorough science and packaged in practical wisdom.
The book launch at ABC Home symbolized the sentiment and intention of Brown’s work: she rocked the house wholeheartedly, with Texas charm, honestly, openly. And because full belly laughs open up the pathways of courage, she set the stage for the audience to participate. Honestly. Openly. It’s powerful to witness a book party morph into a womb of vulnerability. An incubator for innovation. An invitation to feel your emotions. That’s where magic happens, naturally.
You obviously want read the whole book to viscerally feel and embody every nugget. But for frazzled New Yorkers, in the city or in spirit, here’s your road map to Rising Strong, espresso-style:
1) The RECKONING
Recognize your emotions. Get curious about them. What’s the physiology of your emotions? “We’re so much better at causing hurt than feeling hurt,” Brown says. How are you dealing with your hurt feelings? Anger, avoidance, numbing, blame?
“Just pay attention.” The key to recognizing your emotions is breathing. Yes, even in the military they’re breathing. It’s called tactical breathing. “It’s all about breath, Ma’am.” So here’s your primer to box breathing (just imagine the outline of a simple box; inhale, hold, exhale, hold for 4 breaths each):
2) The RUMBLE
Own your story. Brown emphasizes that “if you don’t know your story, you cannot write the ending.” This will lead you to the SFD, the Shitty First Draft. Get honest with yourself. Acknowledge your feelings. Integrate your emotions. Filter your key learnings until you find your truth. “The whole story of Rising Strong is integration,” Brown says.
3) The REVOLUTION
Process becomes practice. Live your truth. Every day. Re-integrate the brilliant parts of yourself that helped you grow, that allowed you to get to where you are now. The feisty, funky, weird, courageous, brave, daring layers of your soul that might have been polished away by social tumbling. Bring ‘em back. Integrate.